Sometimes I think that we all have our own stuff to bear. No matter who you are, you are dealing (on some level) with "stuff".
Drama seems to multiply at times, either through our own self-creation of it or just because.
It is all about how you choose to deal with it.
The bottom line is that when you find a sympathetic ear, it helps to be able to unload your worries but the truth is that even a good friend gets tired of the friend who always is going through some kind of personal drama.
So how do you cope with these inevitable stumbles in the road of life? Smile and bear with it? Keep looking for the silver lining?
In a word - yes.
What doesn't kill you makes you stronger.
Complaining about it doesn't make it better. All it does is lift it off your shoulders for a bit but it doesn't change a thing. Say that you can even find someone who does seem to feel compassion towards you. What good does it do you except to reassure you that "it" will all be okay?
Complaining is like worrying. It doesn't solve anything and many times it just makes matters worse.
Unless you have the most patient friend in the world who doesn't mind your daily/weekly/monthly bitch session, most people will eventually shy away from the "friend" who is overly needy.
The bottom line is that we all have crap that comes our way. Face it (the drama) but when you go out into the world, put a smile on your face. When you focus on not letting people in to see the drama, you are consciously working on seeing the gratitude in your life.
Believe it or not, this can reflect on the crap you are secretly dealing with. It makes it easier to figure your way out of it when you are not wallowing in your drama. Solutions to impossible situations magically appear. The stuff you fear doesn't seem so scary anymore once your mind is clear enough to reason through it.
Instead of focusing on your drama, go out into the world and see that no one is truly immune from the "downs" in life. Notice how the people who have the least seem to give the most. Notice how happy they seem to be.
When you open your eyes to the world around you, you will find it easy to see things to be grateful for. Your own troubles won't seem as awful. The troubles you do have will lessen as well.
I am not promising that your life will become easier, but your life will become more manageable. Smile for starters. It helps. Laugh. It helps even more.
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