Mother's Day.
As a mother, I don't want one day a year where my kids go out of their way to do nice things for me. Treat me with the respect you think I deserve year-round. All the attention one day a year means nothing if the rest of the year you take me for granted.
Maybe that seems harsh but it is just how this mom feels.
Moms don't always have it easy. We work outside the home and we (most of us) are always available for our kids- no matter what. We usually find little time for our needs and even when we do, we often feel guilty for it.
Society puts moms on a pedestal and makes many of us feel guilty for what we do or don't do.
Lately the new pressure is coming from a recent Time magazine cover that pictures a 26 year old mom who is still breast-feeding her nearly 4 year old son. There is something about how "attachment" parenting is healthier for children. The media is always looking for a way to make women feel that they are just not good enough as a mom/wife/person,etc.
F#@% the media.
Being a mom is the most important "job" in the world. It doesn't come with instructions and most of us learn how to be a mom from the women in our lives who influenced us.
The wisest moms are the ones who realize that no matter how hard they try they will never be the "perfect" mom.
There is no such person.
We make mistakes and often motherhood is a learn as you go experience. All one can do is listen to your instincts and trust them. You are still going to feel like a failure at times but the reward is one day when you see the life that you had a part in and you realize that you helped to make it possible. You can feel good that you did your best and be proud of what you were blessed to be a part of.
I wish all the moms out there a happy Mother's day. I hope that you get the respect and love you deserve.
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I am not afraid to make some noise and although my opinion can be strong I welcome other views. Please leave me a comment so I know that I am not speaking to the wall (or my teenager,hahaha)
Forgiveness and Betrayal
Kate pleads her case to Sonny who sees her DID as a convenient excuse for sleeping with Johnny. He walks away from her not believing her story. Kate remains in custody awaiting her psychiatric evaluation.
Delores forgives Lulu for accusing her husband of being the attacker.
Luke and Anna arrive at the hospital and Luke is relieved to find Lulu is okay. Although he is proud of his daughter he tells her that he cannot bear the thought of losing her. He makes her promise to stay safe.
Anna and Elizabeth bond over their mutual loss of a child as Elizabeth talks about it being Jake's birthday.
Jason accuses John of taking chances with Sam's life and Sam reminds Jason that John saved her and the baby.
Sam goes to the hospital to be checked out after her ordeal and has a run-in with Elizabeth who assures her that she is only Jason's friend.
Jason and John exchange mutual threats. Jason warns John to stay away from his wife.
Sam goes back to the motel only to run into John again.
Anna and Luke share a moment of gratitude for having each other to lean on.
Jason accompanies Elizabeth to go visit Jake's grave.
Michael tells Starr that he feels betrayed and used by her. Starr insists that she did not use him. Starr remains in custody for attempting to kill Sonny. Neither Michael or Starr knows that it was Ronnie who was responsible for the crash.
Supermoon
Tonight is the supermoon- the only moon in 2012 that will be the brightest because of its' close location to Earth.
Many scientists do not believe that the moon has any power or effect over humans but I disagree. The period before, during and after the full moon is always a crazy time. I have felt it the last few days and from the posts of others online, they feel it too.
There is a "pull" that comes from the full moon and I have seen it for years. Scientists can claim anything they want but I firmly believe in the connection between the full moon and strange behavior.
So what do you think? Do people act differently when the moon is full?
Many scientists do not believe that the moon has any power or effect over humans but I disagree. The period before, during and after the full moon is always a crazy time. I have felt it the last few days and from the posts of others online, they feel it too.
There is a "pull" that comes from the full moon and I have seen it for years. Scientists can claim anything they want but I firmly believe in the connection between the full moon and strange behavior.
So what do you think? Do people act differently when the moon is full?
Misunderstandings...
Have you ever wanted something so badly that you visualized it and hoped it would become a reality?
Do you believe in the power of your mind?
If our thoughts eventually become our reality, is there harm in holding onto the belief that it is all going to be okay?
Yes maybe "things" won't be as you pictured them but they will be how they are meant to be.
Have you ever jumped the gun and believed something to be your reality when you actually were not listening closely enough?
It is embarrassing to say the least and kind of a downer to believe something is happening that you worked hard for, hoped for and "saw" coming only to find out that you misinterpreted the entire situation.
Coming clean and owning up to your misunderstanding is necessary because you cannot make believe something is what it is not. Disappointments happen and sometimes our need for everything to be okay RIGHT NOW makes us not see the reality of what really is.
Recently having had such an experience I am now trying to move on from the disappointment. I feel dumb but I also feel more prepared. I learned a lesson and that is always good. I am going to try to keep the faith and I still feel that giving up is not an option.
I have my dreams and goals and I refuse to let them go. My life is not over and I have much I want/need/must do.
So I move on smarter and wiser.
Do you believe in the power of your mind?
If our thoughts eventually become our reality, is there harm in holding onto the belief that it is all going to be okay?
Yes maybe "things" won't be as you pictured them but they will be how they are meant to be.
Have you ever jumped the gun and believed something to be your reality when you actually were not listening closely enough?
It is embarrassing to say the least and kind of a downer to believe something is happening that you worked hard for, hoped for and "saw" coming only to find out that you misinterpreted the entire situation.
Coming clean and owning up to your misunderstanding is necessary because you cannot make believe something is what it is not. Disappointments happen and sometimes our need for everything to be okay RIGHT NOW makes us not see the reality of what really is.
Recently having had such an experience I am now trying to move on from the disappointment. I feel dumb but I also feel more prepared. I learned a lesson and that is always good. I am going to try to keep the faith and I still feel that giving up is not an option.
I have my dreams and goals and I refuse to let them go. My life is not over and I have much I want/need/must do.
So I move on smarter and wiser.
9 to 5
We are a society that is always in a rush. We work jobs that most of us hate and we are slaves to them.
I left this "life" 3+ years ago and was determined to never return to the rat race. It was a nice break- maybe too nice.
Next week I go back to full time employ. There is one reason and one reason only for me doing this.
The MONEY. (why is it ALWAYS the money?)
I have tried (in vain) the past several years to make up for my lost paycheck by different self-employment ventures. Although I made some money, it was never quite enough to replace that 40 hour a week job.
In this economy I know that I am lucky to have found fulltime employment. I have looked for years and after taking a few part time jobs, I knew the only way to not dread the 15th of the month was to jump all the way in.
I have enjoyed a level of freedom that few get to experience. I got to explore my writing and my creative side. I even earned money doing things that I love. Unfortunately it wasn't enough to pay the bills.
People say that you should do what you love and the money will follow. That isn't always true. Others say that you shouldn't focus on the money. HELLO??? What should I tell my landlord?
In the real world money matters and when you do not have it, stress follows no matter what you are doing with your time.
I am hoping that this new venture into full time employment will not consume me the way it did in the past. I strive to find that balance between what I must do and what I need to do to be happy. This time around I am playing by new rules. My job will not own me the way my last one did. Life is short and although I am doing what I have to do it is going to have to work for me also.
I am out to prove that you can have it all- attitude can change everything.
I left this "life" 3+ years ago and was determined to never return to the rat race. It was a nice break- maybe too nice.
Next week I go back to full time employ. There is one reason and one reason only for me doing this.
The MONEY. (why is it ALWAYS the money?)
I have tried (in vain) the past several years to make up for my lost paycheck by different self-employment ventures. Although I made some money, it was never quite enough to replace that 40 hour a week job.
In this economy I know that I am lucky to have found fulltime employment. I have looked for years and after taking a few part time jobs, I knew the only way to not dread the 15th of the month was to jump all the way in.
I have enjoyed a level of freedom that few get to experience. I got to explore my writing and my creative side. I even earned money doing things that I love. Unfortunately it wasn't enough to pay the bills.
People say that you should do what you love and the money will follow. That isn't always true. Others say that you shouldn't focus on the money. HELLO??? What should I tell my landlord?
In the real world money matters and when you do not have it, stress follows no matter what you are doing with your time.
I am hoping that this new venture into full time employment will not consume me the way it did in the past. I strive to find that balance between what I must do and what I need to do to be happy. This time around I am playing by new rules. My job will not own me the way my last one did. Life is short and although I am doing what I have to do it is going to have to work for me also.
I am out to prove that you can have it all- attitude can change everything.
Karma
The universe has a way of balancing "it" all out. Many times relying on karma just doesn't feel like enough though.
We teach our children that good deeds will be rewarded and likewise evil will be dealt with. Life is not always fair and sometimes it seems like karma is taking too long.
Again, it is not for us to worry about- you have to pay for your deeds in the end. Sometimes it happens sooner but more often than not it can feel as if there is no justice.
I spent the weekend with Alaina Giordano on my mind.
Alaina is now in hospice, which means she is preparing to leave this life.
When I met Alaina a year ago, we discussed how good her health was in spite of the horrible cancer diagnosis that she had. She really didn't "look" like someone whose breast cancer had spread to her bones. Maybe it was her strong will to fight for her children that kept her with the energy of an athlete.
Many talk about the unconditional love of a mother. Alaina is that kind of mother.
She talked as if she wasn't that strong and sometimes when speaking to her I would hear those familiar behaviors of a woman who had been verbally abused by a man. I did my best to encourage her and told her that she already had so much support and she needed to use that power to stay strong and believe.
A good fight was fought but in the end, Alaina did not win it. Neither did her children who were the focus of this fight.
It scares me that the justice system could be so unjust. When two people split up and child custody needs to be determined, the courts need to look at the children more carefully.
Alaina's cancer should never have been a reason for her losing custody but ultimately it was. The court could easily have forced Kane to not move away from what the children knew as "home" and something could have been worked out for the sake of the children.
Unfortunately this story was about a man who sought vengeance against his ex-wife and totally disregarded the needs of his children.
When I first met Alaina, I truly believed that she would stay healthy for a long time as long as she had her children to care for. The amount of stress that the case put on Alaina did nothing good for her health nor did the fact that she had to relocate in order to fight to stay in her children's lives. This is what the argument was about. We all know that Kane didn't care but one hoped that the court system would see the importance of keeping a mother with her children.
Alaina shouldn't be dying right now. She could have been healthy longer had she not been put in the position to choose between staying in North Carolina (where her doctors were) or moving to Chicago and traveling to receive treatment.
The unreal stress of it all is overwhelming to me. Of course her health deteriorated once she was put into this position.
Kane and the courts made it so Alaina would have to choose between her children and her health.
Now as Alaina faces the end, it still is not over. Kane has won but still insists upon punishing the mother of his children.
Pleas have gone out to Kane to allow the children to spend some time with Alaina. It is the last chance they all will have together and yet he ignores the request.
I get the idea that this is horribly emotional and upsetting but this is life. Cancer happens. Death happens. We cannot shield children from it as if it does not exist.
This is their MOTHER. This is the woman who was there for them and who loves them. She needs to leave this world with some peace knowing that she was able to tell them that she loves them and to assure them that everything will be okay. They need to be able to say goodbye to their mother; as painful as that may be- it is about THEIR emotional well-being and closure.
Ignoring the fact that Alaina is dying doesn't do them any good.
Yes, karma takes care of it all but in the meantime we must still all deal with the events of life. It is not enough that Kane will have to answer one day for his actions. Alaina's children do not have to have this situation be more painful than it needs to be. Being denied this time with their mother is damaging and wrong.
I only hope that as I write this post, Kane has come to his senses and allowed the children to see their mom.
This is a tragic story with an unfortunately tragic ending playing out. Life is not always fair and although Alaina has inspired so many with her strength she (and her children) have paid the ultimate price.
We teach our children that good deeds will be rewarded and likewise evil will be dealt with. Life is not always fair and sometimes it seems like karma is taking too long.
Again, it is not for us to worry about- you have to pay for your deeds in the end. Sometimes it happens sooner but more often than not it can feel as if there is no justice.
I spent the weekend with Alaina Giordano on my mind.
Alaina is now in hospice, which means she is preparing to leave this life.
When I met Alaina a year ago, we discussed how good her health was in spite of the horrible cancer diagnosis that she had. She really didn't "look" like someone whose breast cancer had spread to her bones. Maybe it was her strong will to fight for her children that kept her with the energy of an athlete.
Many talk about the unconditional love of a mother. Alaina is that kind of mother.
She talked as if she wasn't that strong and sometimes when speaking to her I would hear those familiar behaviors of a woman who had been verbally abused by a man. I did my best to encourage her and told her that she already had so much support and she needed to use that power to stay strong and believe.
A good fight was fought but in the end, Alaina did not win it. Neither did her children who were the focus of this fight.
It scares me that the justice system could be so unjust. When two people split up and child custody needs to be determined, the courts need to look at the children more carefully.
Alaina's cancer should never have been a reason for her losing custody but ultimately it was. The court could easily have forced Kane to not move away from what the children knew as "home" and something could have been worked out for the sake of the children.
Unfortunately this story was about a man who sought vengeance against his ex-wife and totally disregarded the needs of his children.
When I first met Alaina, I truly believed that she would stay healthy for a long time as long as she had her children to care for. The amount of stress that the case put on Alaina did nothing good for her health nor did the fact that she had to relocate in order to fight to stay in her children's lives. This is what the argument was about. We all know that Kane didn't care but one hoped that the court system would see the importance of keeping a mother with her children.
Alaina shouldn't be dying right now. She could have been healthy longer had she not been put in the position to choose between staying in North Carolina (where her doctors were) or moving to Chicago and traveling to receive treatment.
The unreal stress of it all is overwhelming to me. Of course her health deteriorated once she was put into this position.
Kane and the courts made it so Alaina would have to choose between her children and her health.
Now as Alaina faces the end, it still is not over. Kane has won but still insists upon punishing the mother of his children.
Pleas have gone out to Kane to allow the children to spend some time with Alaina. It is the last chance they all will have together and yet he ignores the request.
I get the idea that this is horribly emotional and upsetting but this is life. Cancer happens. Death happens. We cannot shield children from it as if it does not exist.
This is their MOTHER. This is the woman who was there for them and who loves them. She needs to leave this world with some peace knowing that she was able to tell them that she loves them and to assure them that everything will be okay. They need to be able to say goodbye to their mother; as painful as that may be- it is about THEIR emotional well-being and closure.
Ignoring the fact that Alaina is dying doesn't do them any good.
Yes, karma takes care of it all but in the meantime we must still all deal with the events of life. It is not enough that Kane will have to answer one day for his actions. Alaina's children do not have to have this situation be more painful than it needs to be. Being denied this time with their mother is damaging and wrong.
I only hope that as I write this post, Kane has come to his senses and allowed the children to see their mom.
This is a tragic story with an unfortunately tragic ending playing out. Life is not always fair and although Alaina has inspired so many with her strength she (and her children) have paid the ultimate price.
What About the Children?
Alaina Giordano is a mom who just happens to have breast cancer. She has always been a mom first and now as she is facing the final days of her life, one can only imagine what she is going through.
Due to the vindictiveness of her ex-husband and the injustice of the court system, Alaina's family and friends are begging her ex to allow her children to spend her final days with her.
It sickens me that it has come down to this.
Kane Synder won the war. He got custody of their children in spite of the public support that Alaina has received. Justice failed Sofia and Bud. So has their "father".
Being children of divorce is tough enough for any child to cope with. These children are not just victims of divorce but victims of cancer. Losing a parent because of custody rulings is hard but knowing that your mom will not be there anymore is tougher.
Alaina prepared her children for the inevitable by involving them in programs for children whose parent has cancer. Although Alaina fought (fights) her cancer, she knew that her cancer affected her children.
Alaina's energy amazed me. She was always on the go and had her children involved in many activites; had them enrolled in the best schools for THEIR interests and did everything a parent is supposed to do to encourage their child.
All this and she was fighting the battle for her life.
As her story went public, she managed to balance it all. Treatment for her cancer, the legal battle to regain custody, travelling to do interviews to get their story out and through it all, she had one focus- the best interests of her children.
Alaina didn't give up. I am not surprised at all.
I spent many hours talking to Alaina. We talked about her life, her history with the man who ultimately caused her and her children so much pain. Although she was victimized, she is a fighter. All because of Sofia and Bud.
Alaina unknowingly is an inspiration to so many. She is a woman who despite the odds continues to fight.
I remember a conversation I had with her before her story went national. I told her that her life was about to change and I asked her if she was ready for it. She had no idea how it would change and honestly didn't believe that her story would become so huge.
Her story was big - in the beginning. Funny how the media works. For a while there was a lot of interest from mainstream media. The debate about parents with cancer and child custody issues brought out a lot of discussion. Then the media abandoned her.
Alaina did move to Chicago in order to spend time with her children. She still had to fight to see them although she had been promised more access to them.
She still did not give up. As her health worsened, it was still about being a mom. For Alaina, it is still about Sofia and Bud.
As Alaina copes with leaving this world, I can only imagine how she is feeling. I know she wants to know that her children will be okay. It has to be so hard to let go. My heart is so heavy knowing that although Alaina will be going to a place free of pain, her children will have a lot to cope with. I just hope that people who love them will be allowed to help them through this.
I'm sorry but I don't believe that their "father's" intentions towards them are in their best interest. If they were he would never have ripped them away from the constant loving presence in their life.
Alaina Giordano never saw herself as a hero, she was just doing what she needed to do. She is what a mom should be. I admire her and I am blessed to have known her.
There are many lessons to be learned from this woman's life. She is the face of courage, strength and unconditional love.
She may not have won the war but she fought bravely and with a determination that is inspiring.
Donations are still being accepted to help pay for plane tickets and other costs in the hopes that the children will be able to spend Alaina's final time together.
You can donate through paypal - alaina.giordano@gmail.com
Due to the vindictiveness of her ex-husband and the injustice of the court system, Alaina's family and friends are begging her ex to allow her children to spend her final days with her.
It sickens me that it has come down to this.
Kane Synder won the war. He got custody of their children in spite of the public support that Alaina has received. Justice failed Sofia and Bud. So has their "father".
Being children of divorce is tough enough for any child to cope with. These children are not just victims of divorce but victims of cancer. Losing a parent because of custody rulings is hard but knowing that your mom will not be there anymore is tougher.
Alaina prepared her children for the inevitable by involving them in programs for children whose parent has cancer. Although Alaina fought (fights) her cancer, she knew that her cancer affected her children.
Alaina's energy amazed me. She was always on the go and had her children involved in many activites; had them enrolled in the best schools for THEIR interests and did everything a parent is supposed to do to encourage their child.
All this and she was fighting the battle for her life.
As her story went public, she managed to balance it all. Treatment for her cancer, the legal battle to regain custody, travelling to do interviews to get their story out and through it all, she had one focus- the best interests of her children.
Alaina didn't give up. I am not surprised at all.
I spent many hours talking to Alaina. We talked about her life, her history with the man who ultimately caused her and her children so much pain. Although she was victimized, she is a fighter. All because of Sofia and Bud.
Alaina unknowingly is an inspiration to so many. She is a woman who despite the odds continues to fight.
I remember a conversation I had with her before her story went national. I told her that her life was about to change and I asked her if she was ready for it. She had no idea how it would change and honestly didn't believe that her story would become so huge.
Her story was big - in the beginning. Funny how the media works. For a while there was a lot of interest from mainstream media. The debate about parents with cancer and child custody issues brought out a lot of discussion. Then the media abandoned her.
Alaina did move to Chicago in order to spend time with her children. She still had to fight to see them although she had been promised more access to them.
She still did not give up. As her health worsened, it was still about being a mom. For Alaina, it is still about Sofia and Bud.
As Alaina copes with leaving this world, I can only imagine how she is feeling. I know she wants to know that her children will be okay. It has to be so hard to let go. My heart is so heavy knowing that although Alaina will be going to a place free of pain, her children will have a lot to cope with. I just hope that people who love them will be allowed to help them through this.
I'm sorry but I don't believe that their "father's" intentions towards them are in their best interest. If they were he would never have ripped them away from the constant loving presence in their life.
Alaina Giordano never saw herself as a hero, she was just doing what she needed to do. She is what a mom should be. I admire her and I am blessed to have known her.
There are many lessons to be learned from this woman's life. She is the face of courage, strength and unconditional love.
She may not have won the war but she fought bravely and with a determination that is inspiring.
Donations are still being accepted to help pay for plane tickets and other costs in the hopes that the children will be able to spend Alaina's final time together.
You can donate through paypal - alaina.giordano@gmail.com
Taking Back My Life
Have you ever gotten into a rut where every day is a repeat of the last? You feel stuck, not moving forward but just going through the same actions.
One day you realize that you are not living the life that you want, that you deserve or that you should be living. You begin to question why.
All of a sudden it hits you- you can be living the life that you want and YOU have the power to make it happen.
Maybe that is when a bit of fear sets in. The thing is that fear is what can keep you from changing your life. Fear can hold you back from taking that chance, from believing in your power and from "letting" you stop repeating what isn't working.
On the other side of fear is a wonderful life (so I hear).
Getting started with the journey of finding that wonderful life (or making it real) is charting unknown territory but when you think of your life as an adventure it helps to turn that fear into fuel for the trip.
Who knows what is out there until you get on the path?
It is never too late to fix what is wrong. It is never too late to try again. It is never too late to discover how to live again.
One day you realize that you are not living the life that you want, that you deserve or that you should be living. You begin to question why.
All of a sudden it hits you- you can be living the life that you want and YOU have the power to make it happen.
Maybe that is when a bit of fear sets in. The thing is that fear is what can keep you from changing your life. Fear can hold you back from taking that chance, from believing in your power and from "letting" you stop repeating what isn't working.
On the other side of fear is a wonderful life (so I hear).
Getting started with the journey of finding that wonderful life (or making it real) is charting unknown territory but when you think of your life as an adventure it helps to turn that fear into fuel for the trip.
Who knows what is out there until you get on the path?
It is never too late to fix what is wrong. It is never too late to try again. It is never too late to discover how to live again.
It Takes Two
Marriage is never easy. Those who claim to have the "perfect" marriage are either walking through life with blinders on or they haven't been married long enough to experience life.
The reasons couples run into trouble is simple. Somehow, some way, they lose each other through a lack of communication.
It happens.
Sometimes a person deals with the pressures in life by withdrawing. Silence becomes the norm as the partner deals with these pressures alone instead of confiding their fears and sharing their feelings.
This is often when a spouse will seek comfort in someone or something else. From there, the relationship can really get damaged. Sometimes this damage is forever.
Life is not easy and no one promised it would be. Part of being a couple is that you promised to hold onto each other and fight through life's storms together. When a spouse forgets or is so distracted that they close up emotionally, it affects the trust and security in the relationship.
When you have been married for a long time you really get to know the other person. You can sense when they are "off" and you usually know why. Even if you don't know the details you have a sense that something is wrong.
Trust is an important part of a marriage and when you suspect that your partner is dealing with their pressures in the wrong way, you need to sit down and have a talk. Don't just assume they will work things out- the truth is that he/she could be sinking deeper into a pattern that will affect your relationship long-term.
Communication is key. You need to be able to tell your spouse what you are thinking, feeling and maybe even how your spouse can help you work through whatever it is that is keeping you up at night. (so to speak)
There are ups and downs in a marriage; just as in life. It is hard when two people are working hard daily and time is devoted to activities that they must do. You need to find the time (make the time) for your spouse for the two of you.
Life can consume your relationship if you let it.
Marriage can be great and close to perfect when you BOTH make the time for it. One person cannot carry a marriage. Marriage is a joint effort with both spouses giving 100%. When it is less than that, trouble follows.
It always does. Slack off on your relationship and the signs will soon follow.
Secrets, silence, that sense that you don't really know what is going on.
Don't let it happen to your marriage.
You can have a close-to-perfect marriage (nothing is perfect) if you remember that you are in "it" together and live that way!
The reasons couples run into trouble is simple. Somehow, some way, they lose each other through a lack of communication.
It happens.
Sometimes a person deals with the pressures in life by withdrawing. Silence becomes the norm as the partner deals with these pressures alone instead of confiding their fears and sharing their feelings.
This is often when a spouse will seek comfort in someone or something else. From there, the relationship can really get damaged. Sometimes this damage is forever.
Life is not easy and no one promised it would be. Part of being a couple is that you promised to hold onto each other and fight through life's storms together. When a spouse forgets or is so distracted that they close up emotionally, it affects the trust and security in the relationship.
When you have been married for a long time you really get to know the other person. You can sense when they are "off" and you usually know why. Even if you don't know the details you have a sense that something is wrong.
Trust is an important part of a marriage and when you suspect that your partner is dealing with their pressures in the wrong way, you need to sit down and have a talk. Don't just assume they will work things out- the truth is that he/she could be sinking deeper into a pattern that will affect your relationship long-term.
Communication is key. You need to be able to tell your spouse what you are thinking, feeling and maybe even how your spouse can help you work through whatever it is that is keeping you up at night. (so to speak)
There are ups and downs in a marriage; just as in life. It is hard when two people are working hard daily and time is devoted to activities that they must do. You need to find the time (make the time) for your spouse for the two of you.
Life can consume your relationship if you let it.
Marriage can be great and close to perfect when you BOTH make the time for it. One person cannot carry a marriage. Marriage is a joint effort with both spouses giving 100%. When it is less than that, trouble follows.
It always does. Slack off on your relationship and the signs will soon follow.
Secrets, silence, that sense that you don't really know what is going on.
Don't let it happen to your marriage.
You can have a close-to-perfect marriage (nothing is perfect) if you remember that you are in "it" together and live that way!
ENOUGH!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Ever have one of those days where something hits you right out of left field? That just about sums up my entire life lately.
Although I have been practicing seeing the good things and building them up to block out the negative, some days I wonder how well my practice is helping.
I have been battling a workers comp insurance company for YEARS in an attempt to get the treatment that the law entitles me to.
Anyone who has experienced workers comp knows what I mean.
Because of people who faked injuries or stretched the truth, people who truly do have pain have to fight to get what they deserve.
After nearly a year of fighting, I finally got an MRI done. It was not the MRI I should have gotten, the area scanned was one of the problems I have.
Yesterday I picked up the results of the test, not really expecting to see much from it. As I waited in the doctor's office to see a new doctor for an unrelated issue, I decided to amuse myself by reading the report.
I was stunned at the findings.
Stunned and annoyed. I have so much going on in my life right now and I don't have time to stop everything and deal with another medical crisis.
Truth is that I kind of knew I might have something going on but I chose to ignore it. I hoped that time would take care of this particular issue but it seems that I cannot ignore it any longer.
So now I have multiple appointments for more tests, more doctor appointments and meanwhile I still have to fight to fix the problem that sent me for the MRI in the first place.
Does it EVER end????
Although I have been practicing seeing the good things and building them up to block out the negative, some days I wonder how well my practice is helping.
I have been battling a workers comp insurance company for YEARS in an attempt to get the treatment that the law entitles me to.
Anyone who has experienced workers comp knows what I mean.
Because of people who faked injuries or stretched the truth, people who truly do have pain have to fight to get what they deserve.
After nearly a year of fighting, I finally got an MRI done. It was not the MRI I should have gotten, the area scanned was one of the problems I have.
Yesterday I picked up the results of the test, not really expecting to see much from it. As I waited in the doctor's office to see a new doctor for an unrelated issue, I decided to amuse myself by reading the report.
I was stunned at the findings.
Stunned and annoyed. I have so much going on in my life right now and I don't have time to stop everything and deal with another medical crisis.
Truth is that I kind of knew I might have something going on but I chose to ignore it. I hoped that time would take care of this particular issue but it seems that I cannot ignore it any longer.
So now I have multiple appointments for more tests, more doctor appointments and meanwhile I still have to fight to fix the problem that sent me for the MRI in the first place.
Does it EVER end????
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