Arnold May Be a Pig But He Had Help

The media is naming names and more details are coming to light about the relationship between Arnold Schwarzenegger and the "housekeeper".

Yes, we can all agree that Arnold Schwarzenegger is one of "those" men who have no respect for the woman he promised to love, honor and cherish but what about the woman who had his "love" child? Was she a victim of her employer or a willing participant in the betrayal of Maria Shriver?

Let's look at the facts. Patty Baena worked as a housekeeper for the Shriver/Schwarzenegger family for more than 20 years. The son that Arnold fathered is by some reports as old as 14.

Patty told friends that they had unprotected sex often in the family home where she worked. She never spent the night there. She also admitted that she pursued Arnold. I am not suggesting that Arnold Schwarzenegger is any way a victim here; there have been enough allegations made against him over the years that show his character.

Patty also was married at the time of these "indiscretions" with Arnold. She divorced her husband in 2008. Women cheat on their husbands just as men cheat on their wives. What is disturbing about this woman is that she did more than just cheat on her husband and betray her employer (Maria Shriver). She had her bosses/lover's child and continued to go to work every day. Did she really think the truth would never come out? Did she even care about the innocent children that she was helping to hurt?

What about her own child that Arnold fathered? She betrayed him as well. For what? The money she knew she would receive or had secretly been receiving? Was it her ego as well that made her "go after" a famous man?

This makes me think about a saying that we used to live by in high school. Men come and go but girlfriends are there forever.

Now Patty Baena was certainly NOT Maria Shriver's BFF but she is a woman. How can one woman purposely betray another woman the way that Patty did? She didn't hide; she totally took advantage by having sex with her employer and probably laughed behind Maria's back.

Maria Shriver is a class act. She will rise above this ultimate betrayal and move forward with her life. She will make a difference in this world in spite of the hurt and betrayal from a man who was unworthy of her and an employee that has no morals.

As far as Patty Baena, well, I hope her 15 minutes of fame were worth the trauma that her children are going to go through. Somehow I don't think she is quite concerned about that. Her actions show that.

Cheating Men in the Position of Power

So, the govenator cheated on his wife and fathered a child. Who is surprised by this? Maria Shriver allegedly found out about the child who was conceived ten years ago with someone who worked in her home and just retired this past January (?) moved out of the family home.

There have been rumors through the years about the womanizing of Arnold Schwarzanegger. Maria Shriver always defended her husband but like many political wives, you wonder how much she really knew.

Like John Edwards famously stated when he got caught "I have made a terrible mistake". Yeah buddy, I would say so. With all your money you failed to purchase a box of Trojans. Oh, and then you failed to be able to keep your secret because the woman outsmarted you and got pregnant. Game over.

Many men in politics cheat on their wives. Elliot Spitzer, Jim McGreevey, and too many to name here. They seem to have this sense of entitlement, as if their egos are so huge that they are above moral behavior like staying faithful to their wives.

A man doesn't have to be in power to cheat on his wife. Men cheat every day. There are many reasons why.

I imagine that it has to be tougher for a wife of a public figure to deal with the public humiliation of being married to a cheater. You can be a martyr and stand by your man or you can enjoy the role of the victim and accept the pity of the masses.

You can be like the wife of Mark Sanford, former governor of South Carolina and throw the bum out. Jenny Sanford said enough when she found out her husband was not off hiking but off in Argentina with his lover. She kicked his butt to the curb. She rose above the humiliation and went on with her life with their sons. Now that's how to handle a cheater.

Of course, sometimes a man (or a woman) cheats and a marriage can be repaired. A lot depends upon whether or not this is a pattern. With a man like Arnold, John Edwards and Mark Sanford, kicking them to the curb is probably the smartest choice to make.