TLC dropped "Kate Plus 8" after the ratings dropped and now Kate Gosselin is crying poverty. This after she went out and purchased a new, sporty Audi.
Personally, I don't care.
Yes, thanks to Kate Gosselin's antics I earned some money on sites like Associated Content/Yahoo because I wrote about her and other pseudo-celebrities. Unlike Kate Gosselin, no one has offered me big bucks to do a reality show, hang out with Sarah Palin or do "Dancing With the Stars".
Like Kate Gosselin, I am unemployed. Okay, I prefer to think of myself as self-employed since after much trying I have not gotten hired at a job outside my home. Without exploiting my children I am finding other ways of earning income.
Unlike Kate Gosselin, I do not have a nursing degree. I have been a mom my entire adult life. Yup, thirty years of being a mom and I have 5 great kids to show for it but I also have a bankruptcy and a really bad credit rating.
Had I been afforded the salary that Kate Gosselin got for several seasons of exposing her children to the world I wouldn't be freaking out over the show's cancellation.
I would have lived simply and been putting money away for the future. Everyone knows that 15 minutes of "fame" comes to an end. I would have prepared for that.
But I am not Kate Gosselin. I am a real mom who would never have exploited her children so that I could get a tummy tuck (although after 6 pregnancies I could use one), hair extensions (yup- I could use those too- my recent attempt at cutting my own hair was not pretty) and all the other extras that Kate has treated herself to.
I may not have money, fame or a big house but I have so much more than Kate Gosselin will ever have.
My husband loves and respects me maybe because the feelings are mutual. My kids are really decent people and their presence in the world will make a difference.
I may stress out over how we are going to pay our bills but there is tons of laughter and love in my home. Real love and laughter that is not staged. This is my life and it may be a struggle at times but I am rich.
So when I hear that Kate Gosselin is flipping out because she is unemployed, I do not feel sympathy. I am surprised that her show lasted as long as it did. I watched a few minutes here and there and was sickened at what I saw. My cat who is caring for her 5 kittens shows more love, respect and nurturing towards her litter than Kate Gosselin does. She has- oops, I mean HAD a nanny for that.
There are too many people like myself who are unemployed through no fault of our own. We try to find work and as the days, weeks and months pass without results we still manage to get by.
At the end of the day I remember just how blessed I am to have what I do have.
Kate Gosselin who?
It's my life and it's now or never. I just want to live while I'm alive and while I'm living I'm sharing it here - totally raw and all Jersey!
Showing posts with label working moms. Show all posts
Showing posts with label working moms. Show all posts
The 99 Club
By Christmas, nearly 1 million Americans will see their unemployed benefits run out. If you are not a member of the 99 club, you are probably thinking that what's the big deal about getting a job.
Many employers have drastically cut their wages. Living on unemployment benefits is an adjustment but at least you had some money coming in. Many get backed up on their bills and taking a job that pays less is not going to help people get out of debt. Many will still lose their homes because their income is not enough to pay their mortgage.
The 99 club, for those who do not know is the people who have been on extended unemployment benefits for the maximum amount of time which is 99 weeks. Many of us never imagined that we would remain out of work for this long but guess what, 99 weeks have gone by without finding work.
I cannot speak for everyone but believe me, it isn't easy. The last few months I have had interviews (finally) but honestly, employers have plenty of candidates to choose from. It is very tough to remain upbeat and positive about finding work when you are faced with rejection.
I braved horrendous weather conditions yesterday to attend an interview that I actually felt very good about. The prospective employer was not promising to hire me, only to give me a trial day in order to prove my worth.
Part of me was very angry about this. I would have one day to show this woman what kind of employee I would make? Not knowing how they did things and being rusty on this kind of work and knowing that this was my test is a lot of pressure. Not that I am going to get a shot at this...she had several interviews scheduled after mine.
When you are experiencing long-term unemployment the temptation is to apply for anything and everything. That is a recipe for disaster. I have interviewed for positions that I know I cannot do because of physical limitations. But when it comes down to it, I need to provide an income in order to not become homeless.
Yes, I said HOMELESS. Think it is an impossibility? It isn't. Most homes have 2 incomes coming in. Lose 1 income and even if you cut back on expenses there are some expenses that you cannot cut back on. I don't think that my landlord will negotiate my rent and I know the electric company is not going to allow me to have my power for free.
Since my last place of employed abruptly closed its doors and made me unemployed I have learned how to live on less money. Living on no money is not living...it is sinking.
If you are also a member of club 99, here are some options on what to do if your benefits run out.
If you are employed, don't think that this is not going to affect your life. What do you think will happen to the economy with more people losing their homes? More people seeking out public assistance? Crime rates will rise because immoral, desperate people will do things in order to survive. This will affect everyone.
Small business owners will experience it first. Those who work for small businesses might see their hours or even their pay get cut in order for the business owner to stay open.
I would like to try and remain hopeful for the future but until the government recognizes that there has been a huge loss in available jobs and that the little guy needs help not the rich, things will not change for the better.
Many employers have drastically cut their wages. Living on unemployment benefits is an adjustment but at least you had some money coming in. Many get backed up on their bills and taking a job that pays less is not going to help people get out of debt. Many will still lose their homes because their income is not enough to pay their mortgage.
The 99 club, for those who do not know is the people who have been on extended unemployment benefits for the maximum amount of time which is 99 weeks. Many of us never imagined that we would remain out of work for this long but guess what, 99 weeks have gone by without finding work.
I cannot speak for everyone but believe me, it isn't easy. The last few months I have had interviews (finally) but honestly, employers have plenty of candidates to choose from. It is very tough to remain upbeat and positive about finding work when you are faced with rejection.
I braved horrendous weather conditions yesterday to attend an interview that I actually felt very good about. The prospective employer was not promising to hire me, only to give me a trial day in order to prove my worth.
Part of me was very angry about this. I would have one day to show this woman what kind of employee I would make? Not knowing how they did things and being rusty on this kind of work and knowing that this was my test is a lot of pressure. Not that I am going to get a shot at this...she had several interviews scheduled after mine.
When you are experiencing long-term unemployment the temptation is to apply for anything and everything. That is a recipe for disaster. I have interviewed for positions that I know I cannot do because of physical limitations. But when it comes down to it, I need to provide an income in order to not become homeless.
Yes, I said HOMELESS. Think it is an impossibility? It isn't. Most homes have 2 incomes coming in. Lose 1 income and even if you cut back on expenses there are some expenses that you cannot cut back on. I don't think that my landlord will negotiate my rent and I know the electric company is not going to allow me to have my power for free.
Since my last place of employed abruptly closed its doors and made me unemployed I have learned how to live on less money. Living on no money is not living...it is sinking.
If you are also a member of club 99, here are some options on what to do if your benefits run out.
If you are employed, don't think that this is not going to affect your life. What do you think will happen to the economy with more people losing their homes? More people seeking out public assistance? Crime rates will rise because immoral, desperate people will do things in order to survive. This will affect everyone.
Small business owners will experience it first. Those who work for small businesses might see their hours or even their pay get cut in order for the business owner to stay open.
I would like to try and remain hopeful for the future but until the government recognizes that there has been a huge loss in available jobs and that the little guy needs help not the rich, things will not change for the better.
I'm Back!
Well after too long of an absence, here I am. I have been sidelined the past month by doctor visits, tests, emergency rooms visits, surgeries and recovery time. In the haze of it all, I wrote a few articles here and there but have ignored my daily bitch.
This post today is about gallbladder disease. Unbeknownst to me, until I found out that I had a problem, gallbladder disease runs in my family. My aunt, female cousins and grandmother all have had their problems with gallbladder disease.
After going through treatment for a breast cyst, the last thing I wanted to deal with was going to the doctor. I starting treating myself (bad idea) for acid reflux after suffering at first from heartburn that would keep me from being able to sleep and then it progressed into marathon vomiting sessions that would occur every 3 to 4 nights. I tried changing my diet, taking prevacid for 2 weeks and finally, nothing worked. I got tired of being dehydrated and exhausted and in pain. I went to see my doctor who first suggested the idea that it was my gallbladder. (a smart online writing friend had told me the same thing- thanks miri) She gave me a sample of something to try and after the pain increased I finally said "enough" and went to my favorite er.
More tests and a night in the hospital and I was told that my gallbladder probably had to come out. So- long story short, I saw my favorite surgeon and he scheduled me to have the deed done.
So, my message for all you ladies who self-diagnose is DON'T! Even if you are a doctor, you shouldn't be treating yourself. If you have a pain that won't go away or other symptoms that are just not right, listen to your body- it is sending signals and what you need to do is to go see a pro! yes, the doctor.
What I didn't know until after my surgery is that your gallbladder can burst! This can be fatal. Had I ignored my symptoms(which were only getting worse) who knows what could have happened.
Okay, I learned my lesson. I promise to pay attention to my body's signals and to start taking care of myself.
Please friends, do the same!
This post today is about gallbladder disease. Unbeknownst to me, until I found out that I had a problem, gallbladder disease runs in my family. My aunt, female cousins and grandmother all have had their problems with gallbladder disease.
After going through treatment for a breast cyst, the last thing I wanted to deal with was going to the doctor. I starting treating myself (bad idea) for acid reflux after suffering at first from heartburn that would keep me from being able to sleep and then it progressed into marathon vomiting sessions that would occur every 3 to 4 nights. I tried changing my diet, taking prevacid for 2 weeks and finally, nothing worked. I got tired of being dehydrated and exhausted and in pain. I went to see my doctor who first suggested the idea that it was my gallbladder. (a smart online writing friend had told me the same thing- thanks miri) She gave me a sample of something to try and after the pain increased I finally said "enough" and went to my favorite er.
More tests and a night in the hospital and I was told that my gallbladder probably had to come out. So- long story short, I saw my favorite surgeon and he scheduled me to have the deed done.
So, my message for all you ladies who self-diagnose is DON'T! Even if you are a doctor, you shouldn't be treating yourself. If you have a pain that won't go away or other symptoms that are just not right, listen to your body- it is sending signals and what you need to do is to go see a pro! yes, the doctor.
What I didn't know until after my surgery is that your gallbladder can burst! This can be fatal. Had I ignored my symptoms(which were only getting worse) who knows what could have happened.
Okay, I learned my lesson. I promise to pay attention to my body's signals and to start taking care of myself.
Please friends, do the same!
Hump day
Well for those who work outside the home...this is hump day. A little closer to the weekend and a break from the morning rush! Working outside the home and trying to get the kids off to school is a challenge.
No woman is superwoman and we need to stop trying to be one!
http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/2608777/overcoming_working_mom_guilt.html?cat=25
check out this article on how to overcome working mom guilt!
No woman is superwoman and we need to stop trying to be one!
http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/2608777/overcoming_working_mom_guilt.html?cat=25
check out this article on how to overcome working mom guilt!
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