Update to Unjust Justice

The other day I was moved to make a post about a woman I had read about on Facebook. Unjust Justice was the title of my post.

As someone who has been a web content/freelance writer for a few years now, I like to use my writing as a tool to inform others of things I think they would find of interest. When I get angered by something I feel is wrong, I share it and I am certainly open to other points of view.

As a mom myself and a sister of someone who survived cancer, I am sensitive Alaina Giordano's plight. I didn't just jump in and believe everything I have read, I actually spoke to Alaina.

I just now read through the comments left on my previous post and yes, there always are two sides to a story. Especially when it comes to divorce and child custody, people take sides.

What is important here are the children. No matter what- children need their mother. Breast cancer or no breast cancer, Alaina is their mother. They need her. To take these children away from their mother is just cruel. A man has to hate a woman (and his children) a lot to do this.

Why does divorce and child custody have to get ugly? These children deserve better than to be pawns. They certainly have been through enough having to deal with their mom's illness. Divorce is hard on children. The prospect of being moved away from what is familiar to them is anxiety-producing. Children can suffer lifelong damage from an insensitive act like being taken away from their home and their mother.

I have spoken to Alaina. I believe that Alaina has the best interests of her children at heart. She does not want to keep her children from their father. There has to be a better solution than taking these children from her.

A local news station wants to hear Alaina's story. I hope it does some good to help this situation get resolved in a way that is best for the children. An injustice has been done. Children need their mother.

22 comments:

  1. I agree with the above said, but just curious did you actually talk to the other half of the story? Like I said I think that the children should have both parents involved in there life. This male must be hateful and selfish....

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  2. As stated before,blogging,and joining petitions,etc.,without really knowing the facts is really the sad and dangerous part of the internet!!!!

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  3. The children will grow up to despise their father. He's ripping them away from their mother, their established lives, family, school, friends. God forbid, if something would happen to Alaina while they're in his care, they will resent and blame their father forever. I know we all have the ability to forgive and forget, but this will give them long lasting scars that may require psychiatric treatment sometime in their lives.

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  4. The facts are all on the Internet. What else is there...he's taking them for his own selfish vendetta. Why did he have no one stand up for him in court? No sister, no mother, no friend, no gay lover?

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  5. Thank you for posting on the subject. The facts are clear - any parent who would seek to remove children on the basis of a cancer diagnosis does not deserve custody. It's shocking. Even more shocking that this poor woman's name continues to be smeared, as in the comments of your prior post.

    I hope justice is done, and quickly.

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  6. Everyone is so eager to jump on a bandwagon, but there are two side to every story. And there are definitely two sides to this one. This mentality is both frightening and extremely frustrating. Educate yourselves before you jump to conclusions. And ask yourself if this smear campaign is what is really best for the kids. Perhaps they will be better off with their dad?

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  7. I'm sorry -- what's the other side of the story, exactly? Women with cancer SHOULDN'T have custody of their children? I am just wondering, since that's the basis of the judgement.

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  8. I don't believe this is a "smear campaign" at all. I have barely read a thing about the father. This is a mother trying to maintain custody of her children and I don't think she has bashed the father at all. If the ruling is infact based on her cancer diagnoses this is a tragedy for her and her beautiful children. I applaud her for standing strong and doing what she needs to do to fight for her children.

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  9. It's not. The ruling is not based 100% on her cancer, like she is leading everyone to believe. And it is a smear campaign, absolutely- she has referred to the father of her children as "abusive" and is shouting it from the rooftops of the Internet. So, obviously everyone who knows her knows her husband. And the other 1000 people don't know her at all.

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  10. Do you know her husband?

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  11. I don't, I did some digging, his name is Kane Snyder. There are two sides to every story. I would like to hear his side of the story too. While I really sympathize with Alaina for losing her kids, I just feel that both sides should be heard before jumping to conclusions.

    Also in response to the comment above about Alaina misleading everyone regarding the ruling is not true. The facebook page has been started by Alaina's freinds, and the petition by her sister. On Alaina's own blog she states clearly that the cancer reason, is only part of it.

    "The Judge says in the order (paraphrasing) that she is uncomfortable not knowing when I will die. This is part of her reasoning for removing the children from their home."
    http://beautyintruth-alaina.blogspot.com/

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  12. I know her husband. His name is Kane. The guy is an alcoholic, abusive,lying piece of garbage. He's basically dug himself a hole he's going to have great trouble getting out of. What human being is going to side with him on this? I'm sure he's shitting himself right now because he had no idea of all this happening. No matter what Kane says against Alaina, he will still be known as the dickhead that took away his children from his ex with cancer. He loses no matter what.

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  13. Well the judge sided with him didn't she? So there must be something else there. His being an alcoholic and abusive sounds like your opinion. Are these facts?

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  14. Yes, Kane. These are facts. I shouldn't have to tell YOU about this. Don't worry, the whole world will know soon. Just sit back and relax. BTW- judges aren't always right. They (like all human beings)can be wrong.

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  15. Obviously that message was not from Kane as he would know the facts! It was from me, who also commented at 7.36 am. I am in support of Alaina's plight. Having cancer is hard enough, and losing your kids is unimaginable. Even if he was the most loving father in the world, I would want her kids to remain with her and enjoy the time they have with their mother especially while she is healthy.

    I just wanted to know if all this about abuse and alcoholism was true or not.

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  16. Also..think about the kids. The daughter is old enough to understand what is going on and find all this information on the internet. People should be careful about making overzealous and opinionated comments about the characters of Alaina and Kane, especially since many of us don't know them. Their children are reading these things about their parents.
    Think about it.

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  17. Posting his name is totally, 100% inappropriate. And not best for the kids by any stretch- what if his employer were to read this, then his job would be threatened. Who would pay Alaina's bills? Do you know, for a FACT, that he is an "abusive alcoholic"? Maybe this trial went on for over a year and the judge made her decision based on testimony from forensic psychiatrists that met with the entire family, over the course of said year. I think this is all so sickening and embarrassing. I understand that Alaina wants the judge to overturn the decision- anybody would- but there is definitely a better way, if she is so concerned for her kids.

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  18. Its just so sad when families split up, and then things get so ugly...I agree with you, there must be a better way for the kids than dragging them through court and now this.

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  19. Alaina has not brought up the ex-husband's name. In fact, she is handling this the correct way. All she wants are her kids. She has not bad-mouthed her ex husband OR the judge. Those are other people who are upset about this injustice. Once something becomes public, it's pretty much a free for all. I think her ex really should've thought about this before he took action. Now he's gotten himself into that cannot be reversed.

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  20. Yes, Alaina is handling the situation with poise and dignity. I agree the husbands name should not be disclosed though. That post should be removed.

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  21. Visit www.change.org to sign the petition for Alaina's cause.

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