When a family breaks up, it is the children who are the ultimate victims. (read here )
I have been divorced twice but never went through a custody hearing. Although my first two marriages did not work out, I was able to amicably work out a schedule for my children that was fair to them. I am blessed and I know this. It is not my children's fault that their dad(s) and I failed at marriage and to this day, we work at putting their needs first.
I cannot say that it is always easy.
Yesterday I re-read the court documents from the divorce trial of Alaina Giordano. People do not know the back-story behind this divorce and if you just read the 27 page document you will think that Alaina is a horrible person.
read the order here
Alaina is not perfect. She admitted to me that she had made many mistakes which she regrets but honestly, who can judge how they would react in her situation?
Imagine knowing there is something going on in your body but being misdiagnosed. By the time you get a diagnosis it is for stage 4 cancer.
Meanwhile, you are in a marriage that is quickly disintegrating and you are trying to be a good mom to two children in the midst of this.
You also relocate as a family to a state where you know no one. You develop friendships and support systems, your children are thriving and you finally figure out how to treat your cancer and then you are blindsided by divorce.
A judge heartlessly discriminates against you for having the misfortune of getting breast cancer and says since you do not even have a job and you cannot tell the court how long you have to live, your ex husband can relocate the children to the Chicago area. Alaina is free to start over in the Chicago area but how do you do that when you are battling to win a war against cancer?
Breast Cancer Mom Loses Custody
To support Alaina and help her in this battle, go to the fan page made for her.
Alaina Giordano Should Not Lose Her Children Because She Has Breast Cancer
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Helping Alaina Giordano
Alaina Giordano is still fighting to get her children back. read the back story here
The costs of legal fees and medical treatments for her stage 4 breast cancer are overwhelming but thanks to the generosity of the public, there has been many offers to help.
ways to help Alaina and her children
Now, thanks to Peter Kaufmann, the man who started the Facebook support page, there is another way to help Alaina Giordano.
For just .99 you can download this original song "I Believe" which was written for Alaina. All proceeds will go to Alaina and her children.
click here to purchase this song
Friends of Alaina have not forgotten her and her children. We are all in this til the end and we believe that justice will prevail in this case.
A mother should not lose custody of her children just because she has breast cancer.
No matter what rumors you hear, or trash that may be written- THE TRUTH OF THE MATTER IS THAT A JUDGE DISCRIMINATED AGAINST ALAINA BECAUSE SHE HAS BREAST CANCER.
This is wrong! We must get involved or else courts are going to make more rulings that do not take the best interest of children to heart. I have never met Alaina although I have spent hours talking to her on the phone and exchanged emails. I believe Alaina is a great, loving mom and should not be punished just because she had the misfortune of developing breast cancer. She is not on her deathbed and has cared for these children pretty much on her own without their "father".
We believe if we all pull together we can undo a bad decision. Look what social media has done already. Alaina's case has gotten international attention. There is power when we use our collective voice.
The costs of legal fees and medical treatments for her stage 4 breast cancer are overwhelming but thanks to the generosity of the public, there has been many offers to help.
ways to help Alaina and her children
Now, thanks to Peter Kaufmann, the man who started the Facebook support page, there is another way to help Alaina Giordano.
For just .99 you can download this original song "I Believe" which was written for Alaina. All proceeds will go to Alaina and her children.
click here to purchase this song
Friends of Alaina have not forgotten her and her children. We are all in this til the end and we believe that justice will prevail in this case.
A mother should not lose custody of her children just because she has breast cancer.
No matter what rumors you hear, or trash that may be written- THE TRUTH OF THE MATTER IS THAT A JUDGE DISCRIMINATED AGAINST ALAINA BECAUSE SHE HAS BREAST CANCER.
This is wrong! We must get involved or else courts are going to make more rulings that do not take the best interest of children to heart. I have never met Alaina although I have spent hours talking to her on the phone and exchanged emails. I believe Alaina is a great, loving mom and should not be punished just because she had the misfortune of developing breast cancer. She is not on her deathbed and has cared for these children pretty much on her own without their "father".
We believe if we all pull together we can undo a bad decision. Look what social media has done already. Alaina's case has gotten international attention. There is power when we use our collective voice.
The Battle is Not Over (but Karma is a BITCH ) just sayin'
I feel a sense of sadness as the 17th of June approaches. June 17th is the day that Alaina Giordano has to relinquish custody of her 6 year old son and 11 year old daughter to her ex-husband.
Kane Synder will be taking the children out of Durham, North Carolina to live with him in a suburb of Chicago, Illinois.
I can only imagine Alaina’s heartbreak.
The fight is not yet over.
Although Alaina requested a stay which would have kept the children with her while her appeal is pending, Judge Nancy Gordon denied her request. This did not come as a surprise but even so, it is difficult to swallow.
So many people have been helping Alaina with her fight to keep her children after Judge Nancy Gordon used her cancer diagnosis as a factor in determining custody of the children.
Many stories have been written about Alaina and Kane since the Facebook support page was first started.
As I have stated many times in my blog and articles I have written for Associated Content/Yahoo, this is so much more than an ugly divorce and custody battle.
The custody of these two minor children was based upon the fact that Alaina Giordano has Stage4 breast cancer. Read the ruling people.
I don’t care if Alaina had an affair while she was married. Alaina never lied to me and to me, I didn’t care about her imperfections as a wife. This case is not about cheating. Kane cheated also. Probably more than Alaina did but guess what, it doesn’t matter.
Judge Nancy Gordon did not give primary custody to Kane Synder because Alaina Giordano had an affair.
Judge Nancy Gordon gave primary custody to Kane Synder because he doesn’t have breast cancer.
Alaina Giordano was discriminated against because she doesn’t know when she may get too ill to care for her children even though today she is well and the only active parent in these children’s lives.
I am a mom also. I have been through divorce and although I fortunately never faced a battle over custody of my children, I know that losing custody of them would have killed me. My ex-husband was also a real man unlike Kane Synder. Although our marriage didn't work, my ex-husband respected me as the mother of his children. Alaina's ex doesn't.
I don’t have breast cancer and I wasn’t sick when I went through a divorce. No one can control whether or not they get a horrible disease and when it is used against you in a court of law, well, that is just unbelievable and wrong.
This is why when I first spoke to Alaina I believed so strongly that this wrong would be overturned. Now as the day comes closer than Kane is legally able to take these children from their mother, I feel sad for her and her children.
I still believe that justice will prevail. Children need to have a relationship with their mother. Alaina has been the primary caregiver of these children not Kane Synder.
Alaina we are still behind you, fighting for what is right. I wish you strength as the next few days are going to be so difficult to bear. I know that you will have good friends with you in Durham standing by your side while you continue this fight.
Stay strong Alaina.
Should Alaina Win Her Appeal?
I have written before about Alaina Giordano and her fight to get a judge's decision reversed that gave custody to her children to her ex Kane Snyder.
I have tried to "get the word out" about this case not because I enjoy getting in the middle of a battle between a couple but because of why Alaina lost custody.
I am not a fool. I know that when a marriage goes bad it can get ugly. Alaina is not perfect nor is Kane. This is not a fair fight because Kane and Judge Nancy Gordon have used two factors against Alaina which should not be a part of any custody/divorce case.
Factor #1
Alaina is a stay at home mom without an income. There are many women in this country who give up a career to stay home when they have children. Anyone who knows Alaina personally knows that she is a college-educated woman who did work earlier in her marriage to Kane and actually supported them while he pursued his education.
Factor #2
Alaina has stage 4 breast cancer which is contained but she cannot give an exact answer to the question "what is your prognosis?". The fact that a judge is allowed to use anyone's cancer diagnosis as a factor in a custody case is wrong. This is why I got involved in Alaina's fight. This is why I urged others to get involved. If we do not put an end to judges using a parent's illness as a reason to give custody to the non-ill parent, where will this kind of discrimination end?
I have read many of the comments that people have posted in regards to articles written about Alaina's fight. There has been tons of criticism about Alaina exploiting her children by taking her plea to social networks and the media. What parent wouldn't fight for their children using any means possible?
There are other criticisms that say people rush to judgment about this case without knowing the whole story. Yes, if you read the 27 page order, there are accusations made about Alaina and about Kane. This is not about adultery accusations - this is about an unemployed woman with breast cancer who is being discriminated against BECAUSE SHE HAS BREAST CANCER.
If Alaina did not have cancer, I would not be writing this blog post. She would be like many other women who go through a divorce/custody case and do not get what they want. This isn't about what Alaina did or did not do. This is about discriminating against a parent who has cancer.
Here is how you can help Alaina Giordano and her children stay together.
Should Alaina win her appeal?
I have tried to "get the word out" about this case not because I enjoy getting in the middle of a battle between a couple but because of why Alaina lost custody.
I am not a fool. I know that when a marriage goes bad it can get ugly. Alaina is not perfect nor is Kane. This is not a fair fight because Kane and Judge Nancy Gordon have used two factors against Alaina which should not be a part of any custody/divorce case.
Factor #1
Alaina is a stay at home mom without an income. There are many women in this country who give up a career to stay home when they have children. Anyone who knows Alaina personally knows that she is a college-educated woman who did work earlier in her marriage to Kane and actually supported them while he pursued his education.
Factor #2
Alaina has stage 4 breast cancer which is contained but she cannot give an exact answer to the question "what is your prognosis?". The fact that a judge is allowed to use anyone's cancer diagnosis as a factor in a custody case is wrong. This is why I got involved in Alaina's fight. This is why I urged others to get involved. If we do not put an end to judges using a parent's illness as a reason to give custody to the non-ill parent, where will this kind of discrimination end?
I have read many of the comments that people have posted in regards to articles written about Alaina's fight. There has been tons of criticism about Alaina exploiting her children by taking her plea to social networks and the media. What parent wouldn't fight for their children using any means possible?
There are other criticisms that say people rush to judgment about this case without knowing the whole story. Yes, if you read the 27 page order, there are accusations made about Alaina and about Kane. This is not about adultery accusations - this is about an unemployed woman with breast cancer who is being discriminated against BECAUSE SHE HAS BREAST CANCER.
If Alaina did not have cancer, I would not be writing this blog post. She would be like many other women who go through a divorce/custody case and do not get what they want. This isn't about what Alaina did or did not do. This is about discriminating against a parent who has cancer.
Here is how you can help Alaina Giordano and her children stay together.
Should Alaina win her appeal?
The Battle Continues
Happily I can finally say that Alaina Giordano has a team of attorneys who are filing an appeal on her behalf. This is the next step in overturning the horrendous ruling made against her (and her children) by Judge Nancy Gordon.
Below is a note left on Alaina's support page on Facebook:
To donate to the fund for Alaina's medical and legal expenses, click the link below
To sign the petition to the governor of North Carolina, click the link below
Below is a note left on Alaina's support page on Facebook:
May 24, 2011 -- DURHAM, N.C. -- Attorneys for Alaina Giordano today filed an appeal in the General Court of Justice, District Court Division, Durham County, formally challenging the ruling by Judge Nancy Gordon that awarded custody of her children to their father.
In the order, the judge cited Giordano's illness -- she currently is battling Stage 4 breast cancer, but the condition is stable -- as the primary reason for the custody decision. In the wake of the decision and the public outcry expressed on behalf of Ms. Giordano, a team of attorneys from Brooks, Pierce, McLendon, Humphrey and Leonard stepped forward to manage her appeal.
"Today, my attorneys have filed an appeal on my behalf and are exhausting every avenue to help me keep my children here at their home in Durham," said Giordano. "It is absolutely outrageous -- and unprecedented -- that a court would cite my illness as the reason to take my children from me, and uproot them from their home. I am confident that we will prevail."
Today's filing is the first step reversing the custody order -- though time is of the essence. In her order, Judge Gordon set a date of June 17 for the children's father, Kane Snyder, to bring them on the 800-mile journey to his home near Chicago, IL.
To sign the petition to the governor of North Carolina, click the link below
To me, this case is not just another ugly divorce and custody battle. When Judge Nancy Gordon used Alaina Giordano's breast cancer diagnosis as a reason to take her children away, it became a totally different kind of case.
It takes two to make or break a marriage. This case and the outrage that ensued once it went public is not about a marriage gone bad; it is about a vindictive man (sorry- that is how I see it) who is not considering what is best for his children (or has any feelings of compassion for the mother of these children) and somehow found a judge who is just as cold-hearted as he is.
Remarkably - this judge is a woman.
I know that with a good legal team I believe that Alaina will get justice for her children. I believe that the right thing will be done. If I was Alaina, I wouldn't waste my time packing her children's bags. I predict that they will be staying in Durham with their mom - where they belong!
Please continue to support Alaina by leaving her messages of hope and faith. All the support is what is helping her to be strong during this battle!
The Truth Behind the Alaina Giordano Custody Case
Alaina Giordano should not lose her children because she has breast cancer.
This Facebook page has nearly 20,000 likes. The fund set up by a friend of Alaina's to help with her legal and medical expenses is a little more than halfway to the goal of raising $10,000.
If everyone who "liked" the page sent $1 via Paypal, the fund would be in great shape. For some reason, people are hesitant to part with a few dollars (a few dollars would help) and instead most post how they are "praying" for her.
Recently I responded to a post about offering a link to the judge's 27 page ruling in the case. Anyone who has ever gone through a divorce and custody matter in the courts knows how 27 pages is not a big deal when you are talking about dissolving a marriage and determining custody of minor children.
We all have heard stories about fathers or mothers who were "wronged" by the system. In this case, hearing that a judge would rule that because a mother has breast cancer she cannot have custody of her kids is just so unbelievable. We can believe that a man (or woman) would try to use whatever they can in a divorce/custody battle in order to be vindictive or seek revenge. When a judge sides with someone who obviously has no compassion for the mother/father of their own children it is outrageous.
Why can't people "get it" that sometimes if you cannot afford good legal counsel, you can get screwed in a divorce case? Imagine it. You are sitting in court, thinking that you have a lawyer and he/she will take care of you and do everything legally possible to make sure that your rights are protected. You sit there stunned as your soon-to-be ex makes accusations that your own attorney does not object to. Then when it becomes your side's turn to speak, your lawyer's concerns are not heard by the judge. You have assembled character witnesses and they are not heard by the court. The judge basically hears a biased, one-sided tale and makes her decision based on that.
Not only does she not hear your side out, but then she discriminates against you because of your cancer diagnosis. No one with cancer, even someone on their deathbed, knows when they will die.
Alaina's breast cancer diagnosis is irrelevant. Her cancer is contained. Cancer should not be a factor in whether or not you can parent your children. Yes, the day may come when Alaina gets ill and cannot care for her children. She has a network of good friends and family ready to step in and help her when that time comes. That time is not now. Alaina is a typical mom of a two. She does everything that every other mom does.
No one has an expiration date stamped on the bottom of their foot. How can a judge choose one parent over the other because one has cancer? That is what this judge did. She didn't take into consideration that for this mother to move out of state she would lose her doctors and her support system of friends.
The judge did not ask these children if they even wanted to move away from their school, their friends and the life that they know. The judge didn't even ask them how they felt about being away from their mother.
The judge certainly didn't consider the fact that the father of these children had moved out of state, away from his children and saw them sporadically.
The judge knew that the mother does not have the financial resources to relocate in another state where she knows no one. She didn't care.
The judge was biased about the mother's breast cancer diagnosis. Period.
This Facebook page has nearly 20,000 likes. The fund set up by a friend of Alaina's to help with her legal and medical expenses is a little more than halfway to the goal of raising $10,000.
If everyone who "liked" the page sent $1 via Paypal, the fund would be in great shape. For some reason, people are hesitant to part with a few dollars (a few dollars would help) and instead most post how they are "praying" for her.
Recently I responded to a post about offering a link to the judge's 27 page ruling in the case. Anyone who has ever gone through a divorce and custody matter in the courts knows how 27 pages is not a big deal when you are talking about dissolving a marriage and determining custody of minor children.
We all have heard stories about fathers or mothers who were "wronged" by the system. In this case, hearing that a judge would rule that because a mother has breast cancer she cannot have custody of her kids is just so unbelievable. We can believe that a man (or woman) would try to use whatever they can in a divorce/custody battle in order to be vindictive or seek revenge. When a judge sides with someone who obviously has no compassion for the mother/father of their own children it is outrageous.
Why can't people "get it" that sometimes if you cannot afford good legal counsel, you can get screwed in a divorce case? Imagine it. You are sitting in court, thinking that you have a lawyer and he/she will take care of you and do everything legally possible to make sure that your rights are protected. You sit there stunned as your soon-to-be ex makes accusations that your own attorney does not object to. Then when it becomes your side's turn to speak, your lawyer's concerns are not heard by the judge. You have assembled character witnesses and they are not heard by the court. The judge basically hears a biased, one-sided tale and makes her decision based on that.
Not only does she not hear your side out, but then she discriminates against you because of your cancer diagnosis. No one with cancer, even someone on their deathbed, knows when they will die.
Alaina's breast cancer diagnosis is irrelevant. Her cancer is contained. Cancer should not be a factor in whether or not you can parent your children. Yes, the day may come when Alaina gets ill and cannot care for her children. She has a network of good friends and family ready to step in and help her when that time comes. That time is not now. Alaina is a typical mom of a two. She does everything that every other mom does.
No one has an expiration date stamped on the bottom of their foot. How can a judge choose one parent over the other because one has cancer? That is what this judge did. She didn't take into consideration that for this mother to move out of state she would lose her doctors and her support system of friends.
The judge did not ask these children if they even wanted to move away from their school, their friends and the life that they know. The judge didn't even ask them how they felt about being away from their mother.
The judge certainly didn't consider the fact that the father of these children had moved out of state, away from his children and saw them sporadically.
The judge knew that the mother does not have the financial resources to relocate in another state where she knows no one. She didn't care.
The judge was biased about the mother's breast cancer diagnosis. Period.
News on the Alaina Giordano Case
A fund has now been started which I can confirm is legitimate to raise money for Alaina’s legal costs and to help with her medical costs as well. You can donate here . Don’t feel badly if you cannot donate a lot, anything will help Alaina to fight this ruling.
Read more about how you can help Alaina to keep custody of her children here .
What people don't understand about this case is that if we just say "oh how terrible" and move on, we are allowing the justice system to get away with a wrong decision that will help to dictate the future of child custody cases in this country.
Friends of Alaina's have banded together to help her with this battle for her children. The support that she is getting from all over the world (yes world) is amazing but not surprising.
These children need to be with their mom for as long as she is meant to be here. No parent knows what their life expectancy is. Just because Alaina has breast cancer she and her children should not be punished by a vindictive man and a screwed-up judge/justice system. Your voice can help to make this wrong right.
Today Show Interviews Alaina Giordano
Alaina Giordano appeared on the Today Show this morning, and just as I had told her last week, people are outraged over judge Nancy Gordon's decision to give custody of her children to her husband. This outrageous ruling demanded national attention because it is so wrong and can affect the future of child custody cases all across this country. I knew people would be outraged- who wouldn't be? click to see interview
I am so proud of Alaina who really presented herself as the strong woman that I knew she was. We are talking about a woman who has been fighting stage 4 breast cancer and although that is enough for one woman to bear, she also has to fight for her children.
What the average person is NOT thinking about is that if Alaina Giordano does not get this ruling overturned it will affect future child custody cases. You may think that you will never be in Alaina Giordano's shoes but she never saw this in her future either.
Alaina's case will be used against other people who have cancer and are going through a custody dispute. Many more parents could suffer from this judges' ignorant ruling. You may not care about this because you think it will never affect you but no one knows for sure. What if Alaina were your sister, mother, friend or co-worker? When it hits home and affects you personally, then you will want someone to help you.
It isn't too late to help Alaina Giordano get this ruling overturned. Please get involved and sign the petition.
Alaina Giordano should not lose custody of her kids because she has breast cancer
Click on the above link, go to the info page for a link to the petition to the governor of North Carolina. Leave a message of support for Alaina and know that you did something to help Alaina's children. If you can do more, such as offer her legal representation, Alaina can use help! It is not too late!
I am so proud of Alaina who really presented herself as the strong woman that I knew she was. We are talking about a woman who has been fighting stage 4 breast cancer and although that is enough for one woman to bear, she also has to fight for her children.
What the average person is NOT thinking about is that if Alaina Giordano does not get this ruling overturned it will affect future child custody cases. You may think that you will never be in Alaina Giordano's shoes but she never saw this in her future either.
Alaina's case will be used against other people who have cancer and are going through a custody dispute. Many more parents could suffer from this judges' ignorant ruling. You may not care about this because you think it will never affect you but no one knows for sure. What if Alaina were your sister, mother, friend or co-worker? When it hits home and affects you personally, then you will want someone to help you.
It isn't too late to help Alaina Giordano get this ruling overturned. Please get involved and sign the petition.
Alaina Giordano should not lose custody of her kids because she has breast cancer
Click on the above link, go to the info page for a link to the petition to the governor of North Carolina. Leave a message of support for Alaina and know that you did something to help Alaina's children. If you can do more, such as offer her legal representation, Alaina can use help! It is not too late!
Inside Edition Covers Alaina Giordano Custody Story
Alaina Giordano shouldn't lose custody of her kids because she has breast cancer and now she is getting national media attention. Inside Edition aired an interview with Alaina today.
The family court papers spell out the shocking decision: "Children who have a parent with cancer need more contact with the non-ill parent," therefore, "the children's primary residence shall be with their father."
The biggest problem with this decision is that Alaina is receiving treatment for breast cancer at the Duke Cancer Institute and cannot possibly be a part of her children's lives if they are to move to Illinois to live with their father. Duke Cancer Institute is located in Durham, North Carolina where the family has been residing. The father moved to the Chicago, Illinois area in August of 2010 and has made sporadic visits to the children since that time.
A Facebook page has attracted attention from people all over the world. At latest count, over 4,500 people were in support of Alaina's fight to keep her children in spite of her cancer diagnosis.
Getting national media attention for this case is great. People should be outraged that a court would use a mother's cancer diagnosis as a factor in determining custody. I personally know several women who fought breast cancer and mothered their children. I believe that taking children away from their mother is hurtful and to a mother who is battling breast cancer, it can be a reason to give up the fight to win the battle against cancer.
Alaina has plenty of support if she should need it to care for her children should her health deteriorate. As of today, although her cancer is stage 4, it is contained. Her health is good. The fact that a judge is looking at a parent's health to determine custody is absurd.
If no cancer exists in either parent, will parents have to undergo blood tests to see if one is at a higher risk of heart disease because their cholesterol is too high? Maybe judges will start targeting obese parents because certainly they are at a higher risk of either becoming ill or dying prematurely from being obese? Yes, this all sounds ridiculous but so is a judge taking custody away from a mother who has breast cancer.
Alaina Giordano is battling breast cancer which is horrible enough. She should not have to be fighting to keep her children because she has breast cancer.
If this story outrages you, please take the time to sign the petition to help overturn this ridiculous ruling.
sign petition here
The family court papers spell out the shocking decision: "Children who have a parent with cancer need more contact with the non-ill parent," therefore, "the children's primary residence shall be with their father."
The biggest problem with this decision is that Alaina is receiving treatment for breast cancer at the Duke Cancer Institute and cannot possibly be a part of her children's lives if they are to move to Illinois to live with their father. Duke Cancer Institute is located in Durham, North Carolina where the family has been residing. The father moved to the Chicago, Illinois area in August of 2010 and has made sporadic visits to the children since that time.
A Facebook page has attracted attention from people all over the world. At latest count, over 4,500 people were in support of Alaina's fight to keep her children in spite of her cancer diagnosis.
Getting national media attention for this case is great. People should be outraged that a court would use a mother's cancer diagnosis as a factor in determining custody. I personally know several women who fought breast cancer and mothered their children. I believe that taking children away from their mother is hurtful and to a mother who is battling breast cancer, it can be a reason to give up the fight to win the battle against cancer.
Alaina has plenty of support if she should need it to care for her children should her health deteriorate. As of today, although her cancer is stage 4, it is contained. Her health is good. The fact that a judge is looking at a parent's health to determine custody is absurd.
If no cancer exists in either parent, will parents have to undergo blood tests to see if one is at a higher risk of heart disease because their cholesterol is too high? Maybe judges will start targeting obese parents because certainly they are at a higher risk of either becoming ill or dying prematurely from being obese? Yes, this all sounds ridiculous but so is a judge taking custody away from a mother who has breast cancer.
Alaina Giordano is battling breast cancer which is horrible enough. She should not have to be fighting to keep her children because she has breast cancer.
If this story outrages you, please take the time to sign the petition to help overturn this ridiculous ruling.
sign petition here
Update to Unjust Justice
The other day I was moved to make a post about a woman I had read about on Facebook. Unjust Justice was the title of my post.
As someone who has been a web content/freelance writer for a few years now, I like to use my writing as a tool to inform others of things I think they would find of interest. When I get angered by something I feel is wrong, I share it and I am certainly open to other points of view.
As a mom myself and a sister of someone who survived cancer, I am sensitive Alaina Giordano's plight. I didn't just jump in and believe everything I have read, I actually spoke to Alaina.
I just now read through the comments left on my previous post and yes, there always are two sides to a story. Especially when it comes to divorce and child custody, people take sides.
What is important here are the children. No matter what- children need their mother. Breast cancer or no breast cancer, Alaina is their mother. They need her. To take these children away from their mother is just cruel. A man has to hate a woman (and his children) a lot to do this.
Why does divorce and child custody have to get ugly? These children deserve better than to be pawns. They certainly have been through enough having to deal with their mom's illness. Divorce is hard on children. The prospect of being moved away from what is familiar to them is anxiety-producing. Children can suffer lifelong damage from an insensitive act like being taken away from their home and their mother.
I have spoken to Alaina. I believe that Alaina has the best interests of her children at heart. She does not want to keep her children from their father. There has to be a better solution than taking these children from her.
A local news station wants to hear Alaina's story. I hope it does some good to help this situation get resolved in a way that is best for the children. An injustice has been done. Children need their mother.
As someone who has been a web content/freelance writer for a few years now, I like to use my writing as a tool to inform others of things I think they would find of interest. When I get angered by something I feel is wrong, I share it and I am certainly open to other points of view.
As a mom myself and a sister of someone who survived cancer, I am sensitive Alaina Giordano's plight. I didn't just jump in and believe everything I have read, I actually spoke to Alaina.
I just now read through the comments left on my previous post and yes, there always are two sides to a story. Especially when it comes to divorce and child custody, people take sides.
What is important here are the children. No matter what- children need their mother. Breast cancer or no breast cancer, Alaina is their mother. They need her. To take these children away from their mother is just cruel. A man has to hate a woman (and his children) a lot to do this.
Why does divorce and child custody have to get ugly? These children deserve better than to be pawns. They certainly have been through enough having to deal with their mom's illness. Divorce is hard on children. The prospect of being moved away from what is familiar to them is anxiety-producing. Children can suffer lifelong damage from an insensitive act like being taken away from their home and their mother.
I have spoken to Alaina. I believe that Alaina has the best interests of her children at heart. She does not want to keep her children from their father. There has to be a better solution than taking these children from her.
A local news station wants to hear Alaina's story. I hope it does some good to help this situation get resolved in a way that is best for the children. An injustice has been done. Children need their mother.
Unjust Justice
The plight of Alaina Giordano became known to me thanks to a post on Facebook. Read more here in Alaina's own words.
Basically, the story is that Alaina's ex-husband was somehow able to get permission from the courts to relocate their two children to a new life in a new state due to the fact that Alaina has breast cancer.
Yup, that is right. Alaina has been successfully battling breast cancer and her ex took her to court and got a judge to grant him the right to relocate their children from North Carolina to Illinois all so he can start a new job. (personally, I sense some vindictiveness on the part of the "father")
The judge used Alaina's breast cancer diagnosis as a reason why her ex should get custody. Since the judge is not clear about how long Alaina has to live, she gave custody to the ex. Huh?
This is ridiculous. No one has an expiration date stamped on the bottom of our feet and even with a cancer diagnosis, no one knows how much time we actually have.
These children need to be with their mother where they feel secure. She needs to be with her children, whom I am sure are her reason for fighting the cancer that threatens her life.
Her ex could relocate these children, die suddenly and unexpectedly and then what? The children are living where they have no friends or family. How traumatic would that be?
The point is that no one knows their life expectancy. To use cancer against someone is wrong. Where do we find these family court judges?
I am all too aware from personal experience how fathers are often not treated fairly in the family court system. Yes, it is true that men abuse the system also but isn't that why we should have judges who listen and do what is right by the children?
If this angers you also, please visit the Facebook page set up for supporters of Alaina's fight. I will be writing more about this. I have set up an interview with Alaina to do my part in helping her fight this ridiculous ruling.
Check out the Facebook page here
Basically, the story is that Alaina's ex-husband was somehow able to get permission from the courts to relocate their two children to a new life in a new state due to the fact that Alaina has breast cancer.
Yup, that is right. Alaina has been successfully battling breast cancer and her ex took her to court and got a judge to grant him the right to relocate their children from North Carolina to Illinois all so he can start a new job. (personally, I sense some vindictiveness on the part of the "father")
The judge used Alaina's breast cancer diagnosis as a reason why her ex should get custody. Since the judge is not clear about how long Alaina has to live, she gave custody to the ex. Huh?
This is ridiculous. No one has an expiration date stamped on the bottom of our feet and even with a cancer diagnosis, no one knows how much time we actually have.
These children need to be with their mother where they feel secure. She needs to be with her children, whom I am sure are her reason for fighting the cancer that threatens her life.
Her ex could relocate these children, die suddenly and unexpectedly and then what? The children are living where they have no friends or family. How traumatic would that be?
The point is that no one knows their life expectancy. To use cancer against someone is wrong. Where do we find these family court judges?
I am all too aware from personal experience how fathers are often not treated fairly in the family court system. Yes, it is true that men abuse the system also but isn't that why we should have judges who listen and do what is right by the children?
If this angers you also, please visit the Facebook page set up for supporters of Alaina's fight. I will be writing more about this. I have set up an interview with Alaina to do my part in helping her fight this ridiculous ruling.
Check out the Facebook page here
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